Saturday, 27 April 2013

So that's what a date-nondate feels like

Saturday has been a good day. The only thing that could have made it better was if my rugby team had won this morning. It was a painful and yet exciting game to watch. Super Rugby - Sharks vs Chiefs in Hamilton. Twenty minutes in we were getting creamed - Chiefs were 24-0 up. Then the Sharks started fighting back and we got our own three tries before the half-time whistle. I can't remember the last time the Sharks scored a try in a SR game. So even though we ended up losing the game, we've hopefully felt the thrill of the tries and want to keep experiencing it. We'll see in the next game...

The other highlight of my day, and the reason I sit down to write this, has been my coffee nondate that I mentioned in my previous post. It only lasted two hours but I had fun. Lots of laughing. I am feeling good about wanting to do things the 'proper' way this time round and see where it leads me. Too often in the past have I allowed things to get too physical too fast. I have used physical intimacy to avoid having to get emotionally invested. This time though I plan to do things the approved way. Get to know the person first, go on dates, spend time together doing arbitrary things, and see if anything develops from there. I shouldn't applaud myself too soon. It's only been the first time spending time with this guy. There's a possibility of me visiting his place next weekend for a braai or puzzling, so that'll be far more of a self-control test than today's public coffee. We'll have to wait and see if I can stay true to my goal and control my impulses. Here's hoping.

He's great by the way. Just saying. I laughed at myself before leaving my flat. I was irrationally nervous - my hands were even shaking, like they do. Felt like the girly-girl I've never been. Life's strange. Sometimes in the best way.

Monday, 22 April 2013

Is a new day dawning?

It's not often that one feels excited about getting to know someone new. Happily, I find myself experiencing this anticipation looking towards this weekend. Nothing major, just coffee and conversation, but I haven't been looking forward to such in quite a while. If you follow this blog, or have happened to see the previous one, yes, it's the old acquaintance from the wedding. Cliched, sure. Heavens forbid I turn out to be one of those we-met-at-a-wedding people. I wonder if I will get all daft, girly and nervous on the day....? Nah, we'll be super chilled, won't we Kenda. Sure.

Sunday, 7 April 2013

Congrats to the new husband

Yesterday I watched one of my best friends get married. He looked so happy together with his new wife that it made my heart glad, despite any previous misgivings I'd had about the wisdom of the union. I truly hope they have a long and joyful life together. However, before going to sleep last night there was one thing that made me a little melancholy: I don't think I'll ever get a proper hug from my friend again.

Such is life though. Things change. Relationships (all types) change. If you can roll with the punches and stay on your feet, you're doing a damn good job. One other cool thing about going to the wedding, and perhaps another path-change but maybe not, is that after some conversation with a previous acquaintance, I discovered the only guy I've met thus far that really enjoys the challenge of a good jigsaw puzzle. For me, that's very cool.

On that note, I've got a 6000pc under construction on my living room floor. The picture is not one I would have picked out - I'm doing it more for the size challenge. The things one's supervisor lends their student. I'll be documenting my progress, or at least attempting to.